He’s My #1 ...but often comes in second

The theme this trip (3/20) on the Blog Cruise is: How do you make time for your spouse?

Does that title sound weird? It does to me because the number one person in my life is my dh. He is the one person I turn to first when all goes wrong- or right! He is the first I want to share my time with and all that entails. But even though he is my #1…he often comes in second.

I think that many will understand what I mean by that. He has to work and sometimes I have to work. We go about the day time apart, sometimes 6 days a week. And we have two kids that I homeschool (he supports me morally *wink*). So how do I make time for my husband?

With homeschooling, my days are spent like this:

• Get up at 6:30-ish, kiss hubby good bye.
• Make coffee –that is a must.
• Check emails, facebook, work on posts for this blog
• Wake kids up
• Get the kids going on school
• Work and/or work on things I’ve committed myself to –such as book or product reviews, contributing educational materials for homeschoolers, looking for new/different/recent things pertaining to homeschooling
• Do more with the kids –school and/or outdoor stuff, shopping, etc.

So that is how my day generally goes (with more details and variations than I can even think of at the moment). But this isn’t about that. When my hubby comes home around 6:30- 7:00 pm, I am there to greet him at the door with a hug and a kiss. He is the only one I can see right then.

It doesn’t matter how my day has been; I give a smile –willingly and without hesitation. Even if I am feeling poorly, he gets a hug, smile and a kiss. It helps me show him that he is my #1 –even if it feels to both of us that he has to come in second sometimes.

Another way I make time for him is to make sure that the evenings are spent either as a family or just the two of us. I have all day with my children –only a few hours are spent with just my husband. I try very hard to get all of my computer activities done before he gets home and limit it on the weekends.

And finally a way that I make ‘time’ for him is to make a meal that he enjoys. It makes me focus on him and if I tell him beforehand (which I don’t always do –some surprises are good) he knows I am thinking of him; it makes him feel special.

He likes to spend time in the garage tinkering and working on his ‘toys’ (cars, bikes, etc) and sometimes gets lost in it. I make the effort to go to him, just to be there. Because I have all day at home, I can do the things I want to do almost whenever but I understand that he has a limited hours in the week when he can do the things he enjoys. Spending time with him wherever he is, is a way I make time for him.

How do you make time for your spouse?